THOUGHT FOR THE WEEK
Monday 20th September 2021
This week in school our theme is I am a Good Communicator.
This means so many different things. Many people think they are great communicators but struggle to hear other people’s opinions, many people listen intently to others but do not think their opinion is worthy of expressing. The confident person in the room can sometimes overwhelm and quash the very valid opinions of others. Anyone who has ever been on a committee will know the sort of person I am referring to. Those people who consider everything they think and say to be the most important thing in the room at any one time and refuse to change that opinion or listen to anyone else. As teachers we become very adept at noticing those people and mitigating their effect on a class and also noticing those students who are quiet, lack confidence but who have huge amounts of great thoughts and ideas to contribute.
Last week Mr Curtis met with the School Council for the first time this year and this week I will be meeting with the Prefects, Anti Bullying and Wellbeing Ambassadors. Good communication is key to all of these roles. It is only by listening to the student body and letting them discuss what they perceive to be the issues and the solutions, that the school will continue to evolve and grow as a community. We staff and parents have the tremendous privilege of watching our young people develop their effective communication as they move into near adulthood and leave us, ready to assume their place in the world.
So why is good communication so important?
It allows you to let others know what you are feeling, it helps you put your mark on the world and it gives you purpose. It brings the world together and makes it feel smaller and more cohesive. It provides people with the tools for change and the ability to make their dreams a reality. Interacting with other people, both verbally and non-verbally, should have a positive impact on our lives. If you regularly find yourselves in conflict with others or not expressing yourself effectively, take a step back and think what you need to change to get your message heard. Good communication can change the world!
Monday 13th September 2021
This weekend I have been thinking about loss. It started with the commemoration of that most terrible of days,9/11, where listening to the list of casualties read by their own families was so moving and poignant. A day of hatred and destruction remembered twenty years later and still so raw. Something so terrible has the power to destroy or the power to engender cohesion. The world in the immediate aftermath seemed smaller but also dangerous. However over the years the memories of how we all felt watching the day unfold on television and in person has been lost to people not immediately affected. That cohesive feel has dissipated – we just need to look at the news to depress ourselves about the heartache, sadness and anger across the world currently. That said the human condition at its most basic is full of positivity and love.
I was reminded of this with an example closer to home. One of our loveliest former students , Josh Davies, was sadly killed in a car accident this summer and on Sunday his brother and friends organised a charity football match at Downton Football Club to remember him and to raise funds for the Air Ambulance and NHS blood donation. Josh was a great Trafalgar student with just the right level of cheeky loveliness and an ability to make you feel more upbeat almost every time you spoke to him. The day was a perfect reflection of his personality, with a huge amount of former students turning out to support his family and play the match. What a huge loss he will be to his family and friends, but also the world going forward. I do not mean to sound overdramatic but someone with his outlook is a sizeable cog in the process of making the world that little bit more friendly and positive, that little bit more kind.
As both the 9/11 tragedy and the loss of Josh teach us, we must go on trying to make this world kinder and never forgetting that we carry their hopes and dreams with us. We must make every second of our lives on this earth count and never give up believing that we can make a difference.
I send all of our condolences from Trafalgar to the Davies family – we were proud you chose to send both him and Jack to Trafalgar and we know he enjoyed his time here. We will remember him with love and pride.